Very well said and a hard thing for people to do especially when they are young. The best thing that comes with age is letting go of preconceived beliefs. I was told early in my 20’s to not resist change but to embrace it. Life will go a lot easier. This coupled with your essay, is life!
This was exactly what I needed to read this morning as someone thinking about creating my “next chapter. I see now that the project (i believe it’s called My Life) has already started and I’m in it. There’s a lot more to give and learn and try out right where I’m at. Thanks Amy 💪🏼
Wow did I love this and resonate with it! I basically blew up my corporate job / American lifestyle a few years ago in my early 40's to found a company and move to Central America with my family. Every day is amazing and incredibly hard all at once. I find that with age I am able to "handle hard better" to quote the Duke Women's Basketball coach Kara Larson. Her message feels so aligned with your post, Amy. Worth a watch if anyone needs a pep talk - I come back to it all the time:
I was at 200 Vesey 94-96… also from a small town and thought of those revolving doors between WTC and WFC were like entering a double Dutch rope game that was going to end up with my head stuck in the doors.
Read this and immediately got excited about my husband's potential (a software engineer who is also an artist and adventurer) as well as my own. Thank you for this.
LOVE this Amy. I have always told my kids (now adults aged 26 and 23) and anyone who asks me to mentor them… to view everything in life as an opportunity to collect more skills and tools because you never know how they will help you do the things you do next… or the things you want to do in the future. Your story about both your brother and yourself are perfect examples of this!
I loved reading that you had a different life before Tibi! It gives me hope that your next best thing is around the corner and everything I am doing now is getting me one step closer. Your writing style is raw and non condescending with a splash of humour.
Once again you have provided an intellectual outline of matters that seem quite simple but are difficult to "pin-point" when one is attempting to articulate at times: hard work, and what it has to offer on one's resume (you can't see it on paper, unless you read between the lines), choosing and serving people you deeply love (another unseen asset), and putting your brain and body in a place where "above and beyond" is status quo for everything you do.
I am tempted to ask the question, "What should I do if I pursue life in this way and it still doesn't seem to get me where I want to be?", but I KNOW the answer.
I am certain that you did not find "the universe rising to great you" when you were putting together you newsletter by reading through mind-numbing stats and articles that really weren't applicable to your understanding all the material you need to know in order to offer quality service to your client. BUT all those "wasted reads and wasted hours" are never really wasted. In the same way Thomas Edison never believed anything he worked on was a "failure", your brother-in-law never believed he spend time doing things that are meaningless. So, if I don't acomplish, accomplish, accomplish I have actually accomplished something each day that may lead me closer to something grand.
When I was teaching my heart would sink when a student wanted to go to the Ivy League for reasons that Instagram told them were important. I tried to unravel and break apart those myths that bind kinds to false claims or attempts to market "what one needs to succeed". I'm sure I made some parents frustrated and guidance conselors wonder about my intentions.
I just wanted for student to understand what you so clearly articulate here. Keep going, keep doing things that make your inside parts feel joy, and then spend a lot of time doing stuff that know one can see or praise you for in an effort to be ready to share exciting stats when the time comes!
Being a pensioner (and realising I do not want to be one), I find myself in a damn twilight zone, where I’m desperately (! no use) looking for light at the end of this fucking tunnel. I’ve been immersing myself in the creative pragmatist posts, not only because I like the Tibi fashion related way of thinking, but in particular because the overall vibe (or rather message I pick up) of what you write and say resonates with me. I wrote to you before, a few months ago when I first came across ‘looking like yourself’ which struck me because often people did not understand what I meant when I said ‘this is not me’. Anyway, this last post made me realise it is no use waiting for this light at the end of my tunnel, I have to start creating light inside it, or even start digging to get out if it sideways, upward whatever way presents itself. Mobilise thyselves!!!🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️
I fucking love this. Articulated so well from the vantage point of a 30 year run that’s still gaining momentum.
Thanks for helping me reflect on my non linear journey in a more affirming manner. Go Amy.
Very well said and a hard thing for people to do especially when they are young. The best thing that comes with age is letting go of preconceived beliefs. I was told early in my 20’s to not resist change but to embrace it. Life will go a lot easier. This coupled with your essay, is life!
This was exactly what I needed to read this morning as someone thinking about creating my “next chapter. I see now that the project (i believe it’s called My Life) has already started and I’m in it. There’s a lot more to give and learn and try out right where I’m at. Thanks Amy 💪🏼
Wow did I love this and resonate with it! I basically blew up my corporate job / American lifestyle a few years ago in my early 40's to found a company and move to Central America with my family. Every day is amazing and incredibly hard all at once. I find that with age I am able to "handle hard better" to quote the Duke Women's Basketball coach Kara Larson. Her message feels so aligned with your post, Amy. Worth a watch if anyone needs a pep talk - I come back to it all the time:
https://youtu.be/oDzfZOfNki4?si=fk6l0whjjlmKZ8RP
Going to watch now but I love that line “handle hard better!”
I wish I read this 25 years ago...... Superb!!!! as I expected.
A very good one.
I was at 200 Vesey 94-96… also from a small town and thought of those revolving doors between WTC and WFC were like entering a double Dutch rope game that was going to end up with my head stuck in the doors.
Ahh! I was 93-96!
Read this and immediately got excited about my husband's potential (a software engineer who is also an artist and adventurer) as well as my own. Thank you for this.
The second to last paragraph - so well put❤️
Powerful. Had to chuckle at the 200 Vesey…signed former 250 Vesey. :-)
Another 200 vesey girl here…
LOVE this Amy. I have always told my kids (now adults aged 26 and 23) and anyone who asks me to mentor them… to view everything in life as an opportunity to collect more skills and tools because you never know how they will help you do the things you do next… or the things you want to do in the future. Your story about both your brother and yourself are perfect examples of this!
I loved reading that you had a different life before Tibi! It gives me hope that your next best thing is around the corner and everything I am doing now is getting me one step closer. Your writing style is raw and non condescending with a splash of humour.
As one trying really hard to trust the process - I really appreciated this right now.
Bloody hell I needed that. Thank you.
Amy,
Once again you have provided an intellectual outline of matters that seem quite simple but are difficult to "pin-point" when one is attempting to articulate at times: hard work, and what it has to offer on one's resume (you can't see it on paper, unless you read between the lines), choosing and serving people you deeply love (another unseen asset), and putting your brain and body in a place where "above and beyond" is status quo for everything you do.
I am tempted to ask the question, "What should I do if I pursue life in this way and it still doesn't seem to get me where I want to be?", but I KNOW the answer.
I am certain that you did not find "the universe rising to great you" when you were putting together you newsletter by reading through mind-numbing stats and articles that really weren't applicable to your understanding all the material you need to know in order to offer quality service to your client. BUT all those "wasted reads and wasted hours" are never really wasted. In the same way Thomas Edison never believed anything he worked on was a "failure", your brother-in-law never believed he spend time doing things that are meaningless. So, if I don't acomplish, accomplish, accomplish I have actually accomplished something each day that may lead me closer to something grand.
When I was teaching my heart would sink when a student wanted to go to the Ivy League for reasons that Instagram told them were important. I tried to unravel and break apart those myths that bind kinds to false claims or attempts to market "what one needs to succeed". I'm sure I made some parents frustrated and guidance conselors wonder about my intentions.
I just wanted for student to understand what you so clearly articulate here. Keep going, keep doing things that make your inside parts feel joy, and then spend a lot of time doing stuff that know one can see or praise you for in an effort to be ready to share exciting stats when the time comes!
Thank you for this...your insight and grace. Amy
Amy, spot on again., thanks.
Being a pensioner (and realising I do not want to be one), I find myself in a damn twilight zone, where I’m desperately (! no use) looking for light at the end of this fucking tunnel. I’ve been immersing myself in the creative pragmatist posts, not only because I like the Tibi fashion related way of thinking, but in particular because the overall vibe (or rather message I pick up) of what you write and say resonates with me. I wrote to you before, a few months ago when I first came across ‘looking like yourself’ which struck me because often people did not understand what I meant when I said ‘this is not me’. Anyway, this last post made me realise it is no use waiting for this light at the end of my tunnel, I have to start creating light inside it, or even start digging to get out if it sideways, upward whatever way presents itself. Mobilise thyselves!!!🤸♀️🤸♀️🤸♀️