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Apr 24Liked by Amy smilovic

Everytime I stay authentic to myself (which I learned from watching/reading you) and dress for this: "I want my visual to be in line with who i am. What i think. What i believe." I get this from people, including complete strangers... they "start complementing just you." Feeling seen feels good. Thank you.

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Apr 24Liked by Amy smilovic

Your "I will feel itchy." (in the wrong clothes) brought back a memory of a conversation with my mother. I was 12 or 13 & trying to explain to her why my clothes - a cardigan, kilt, long socks & mary janes felt wrong & I didn't want to wear them. She didn't get it & I felt "itchy" physically & mentally every time I wore them. Thanks, your thoughts really struck a chord.

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Apr 24Liked by Amy smilovic

I will re-read, maybe a lot because it’s that good. At times I’ve struggled with some aspects of what I know you are trying to instill about how to learn our own style, without just mimicking or being “told” what to wear. The IG style classes, the (great!) CP book are amazing tools - and your words, like story-telling, really pull it all together - so good. Also, olive oil for dinner again!?! A perfect analogy.

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Apr 24Liked by Amy smilovic

This intellectual approach to style and taking time to pay close attention to the subject, because the rewards are worth it, has been so useful to me. Not only in evaluating what I want to add to my wardrobe, but in editing out. I used to worry that I would regret getting rid of the wrong things. Now that I view clothes as diverse mood makers rather than outfits, it makes it so much easier to understand which can go and which have a place, even if they won't be the main players. So thanks for this Amy, I really appreciate your thoughts.

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Apr 24Liked by Amy smilovic

Amy I really loved reading this. Watching all of your reels and reading your book have really clarified the CP philosophy. But it’s always good to take a refresher course and this substack was it! Thanks for making dressing so easy and showing us how to shop wisely.

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Thanks to you, Amy, I find I'm wearing more of my clothes and shoes bc I'm not as stuck with items having to "go" together. Knowing I can wear black nylons with the open-toed heels I already have has saved me from buying more shoes. What I'm finding now is that I often feel boring - I think it may be a clue that I'm not dressed creative enough, or that too many items are too traditional. Is it just me or is it hard to find modern designs? 🤷‍♀️

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Yes. It’s hard to find modern designs that are still chill and a bit classic. But I do find that if you feel bored, turn your focus towards adding in different textures - it’s amazing how a chic simple black top in a really nubby terry can make you feel really different and interesting - resist the urge to buy too many classic fabrications

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Apr 24Liked by Amy smilovic

Really? I'm 11th November, '67. ❤️

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Oct 29 , 67

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You look amazing! Such an inspiration. I work in education and my lifelong mission has been to help young people find their identity while struggling to reflect mine visually. When I discovered Tibi, the creative pragmatist philosophy and your website, I felt I had finally found my own style. It's not about copying others, but about really knowing and understanding oneself.

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This is something I have been thinking about for really the first time at sixty. When I lived in New York City, I had a much better sense of my style than I do now. Getting older, changes to my body and mobility, and the decades of work to uncover who I really am (without societal or authoritarian input) have left me questioning what to wear. Thank you for this.

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When you can remove the body from the thought process, you’ll really get there. I promise. Focusing on those adjectives really helps create focus. Once you know what you WANT to wear you will at least know what you are looking for. Doesn’t mean you’ll find it, but at least when you do, you’ll know it.

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As a fellow Scorpio Amy, I am so glad I found you. For the first time in my life I feel like me - aged 56! Coming to your Wooster street store for the first time, from UK on May 28th! I can't wait!!

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Apr 24·edited Apr 24Author

Seems we are twins. Only I call them cookies and you call them biscuits.

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Apr 24Liked by Amy smilovic

Oops -, replied in wrong place! I'm 11/11/67. As for cookies - well, many younger brits are calling them cookies now too! 😁

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