I hate the word Happy. And it’s sister Joy. Hear me out. Growing up, my dad was a psychologist and an artist (and my mom a teacher - you get the visual). I have a younger sister who I consistently tried to wield power over. She was (is still) six inches taller than me, but that never served as a detterent. I loved clothes, I worked every menial job to earn money to buy clothes. My sister feigned disdain for fashion, but I’d constantly catch her plundering my closet in search of a piece to wear. And then, inevitably, my favorite top would be slipped back into the bottom of my drawer with a giant stain on it. And I would scream “I HATE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And she would cry, and she’d tell our parents how much she loved me, and that my feelings towards her made her really really really sad. She had this act down and in the meantime, while getting sympathy, she fucking ruined my shirt.
Your dad taught you to write your emotions! What a gift he gave you. Possibly your teacher mom had a hand in this as well, but Shitballs to require the sharing in the written word, brilliant.
I have gained a great deal of insight and pleasure (is this happy?) from your written word (book, Substack, Instagram!) also you have given me words to describe my style. I am in your debt (and I am trying to pay you with clothing purchases. Hahahaha) fondly, B
The note at the end calmed my gut reaction of “what a surprising click bait-y title for Amy.” It was so unexpected and almost seemed like a setup for a punchline. Curious about the results!
Happiness is a reaction to something great. Joy is a product of someone great. Although the way we feel in our clothes, those emotions and feelings you expressed, should bring us happiness, I don’t believe they should evoke joy. Joy is a higher emotion and probably shouldn’t be expected to come from “things” but from people.
I always wondered about those “happiest countries” surveys and what does that mean to be happy. I’ve always just had to survive. Well, I just announced my retirement and started focusing on what I want and feel truly happy. TIBI is my retirement wardrobe.
Oh my gosh. Maybe she knew where you were headed and set you up to send her the current line each season so she won’t raid your closet. Tall and smart…
I adore content like this, and it resonates so strongly for me (also a psychologist/artist/sometimes teacher/writer); I appreciate the way you dig through to "what does this stupid word - HAPPY - actually mean?"
Couldn't agree more! Happiness — around fashion or life in general — is fleeting. Sadly (pun intended), Psychology Today reports, "A series of studies found that the more value people place on happiness, the less happy they become"
I just wrote a long winded post about fun! Wish I’d thought of this title 🤪 I find that “happy” is almost a rich layer cake of satisfaction, relief, self worth, acceptance and amusement. All the good things. ☀️
Find your passion
That’s my trigger
Scott Galloway can go on forever about how misleading that word can be. Another word to be broke now for sure!
Your dad taught you to write your emotions! What a gift he gave you. Possibly your teacher mom had a hand in this as well, but Shitballs to require the sharing in the written word, brilliant.
I have gained a great deal of insight and pleasure (is this happy?) from your written word (book, Substack, Instagram!) also you have given me words to describe my style. I am in your debt (and I am trying to pay you with clothing purchases. Hahahaha) fondly, B
I feel the same way about the word fun
The note at the end calmed my gut reaction of “what a surprising click bait-y title for Amy.” It was so unexpected and almost seemed like a setup for a punchline. Curious about the results!
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Great article on how to put into words your mood and feeling!!! Especially when it pertains to one’s clothes! Bravo!!!
I love this perspective so much
Happiness is a reaction to something great. Joy is a product of someone great. Although the way we feel in our clothes, those emotions and feelings you expressed, should bring us happiness, I don’t believe they should evoke joy. Joy is a higher emotion and probably shouldn’t be expected to come from “things” but from people.
I always wondered about those “happiest countries” surveys and what does that mean to be happy. I’ve always just had to survive. Well, I just announced my retirement and started focusing on what I want and feel truly happy. TIBI is my retirement wardrobe.
Oh my gosh. Maybe she knew where you were headed and set you up to send her the current line each season so she won’t raid your closet. Tall and smart…
Your "written word" has been so helpful to me. Love how often you get your thoughts out there. Love the photos too!
I adore content like this, and it resonates so strongly for me (also a psychologist/artist/sometimes teacher/writer); I appreciate the way you dig through to "what does this stupid word - HAPPY - actually mean?"
Couldn't agree more! Happiness — around fashion or life in general — is fleeting. Sadly (pun intended), Psychology Today reports, "A series of studies found that the more value people place on happiness, the less happy they become"
Peace and fulfillment are forever #goals.
I just wrote a long winded post about fun! Wish I’d thought of this title 🤪 I find that “happy” is almost a rich layer cake of satisfaction, relief, self worth, acceptance and amusement. All the good things. ☀️